When Fear Has You Stuck...This 3 Word Reframe Changes Everything

Have you ever noticed yourself avoiding doing that thing you need to do? That follow up email, the phone call to that prospect, the meeting agenda, the guts of your presentation? Rather than doing any of those things you find yourself filling in the gaps with other minutiae, a subtle but effective technique of avoidance.

A lot of that hesitation is a mental game. A game of being afraid to do the action that would move you forward best, mostly because you’re uncertain of how to start. It's not only that you want it to be great, but you are as nervous as you are excited. This paradox slowly lulls us into being stuck.

This is my surefire approach whenever I feel stuck and sense that I'm avoiding something. Rather than overthinking and 2nd guessing...it's clears the path for me to take action and move forward.

 Here’s how I feel when I reframe…

Here’s how I feel when I reframe…


Why this works:

  • Takes the pressure off of you

  • Is in complete alignment with who you are so it comes naturally

  • Mental toughness plays a big role...this will make you feel super tough and gets you to action!

How This Simple Message Released Me From Being Frustrated in Traffic Jams

How This Simple Message Released Me From Being Frustrated in Traffic Jams

Every morning I have a pretty usual routine (who doesn’t that first 1/2 hour? Most of us are stumbling through our kitchens pretty much on autopilot)…it always begins waking up to a yellow lab who is way too excited with anticipation for 2/3 cup of kibble, feed both 4-leggeds (the sidekick is an incredibly tolerant little sister kitty Lucy), get the coffee percolator gurgling and enjoy that time only morning offers before the day’s launch. 

Because work is the most widely accepted AND expected #1 priority, what is so powerful about having a morning routine is that the other areas of your life are included in the day before you’re off to the races. I am a big believer in the importance of being mentally and physically strong…so it’s important that time for that is carved out. Morning seems to work best (and, that’s a pretty darn good opening act to your day).

Need to Have a Difficult Conversation? Here's How to Have Them Successfully

Need to Have a Difficult Conversation? Here's How to Have Them Successfully

Having difficult conversations is one of the hardest parts of being a leader.

It’s emotionally charged (for both parties, my stomach would be in knots too), we worry how it’s going to go (will I say the wrong thing, will they cry, or worse...get really defensive), and we sometimes sweep (and keep sweeping) it under the rug instead. The fact remains, as the leader, you have the responsibility of having these conversations, for everyone’s sake.

And, difficult tasks fall under your territory.