You know what makes Jim Gaffigan so hilarious? His comedic bits relate to the simple parts of our lives, yes, but the real kicker is his delivery. The different voices, mannerisms, and narration of our own thoughts is what compounds the act into hilarity. Same goes for you. When you want to come to a resolution on something that has been a source of conflict, how you approach and deliver yourself makes all the difference.
I work at a winery on the weekends here in Sonoma. It's a perfect compliment to my nascent coaching practice I launched 22 months ago, and since my husband is in the hospitality industry here in wine country, he has Tuesdays and Wednesdays off (all hands on deck for busy wine-country weekends when the valley swells with those seeking warmer territory than what San Fransisco offers). The winery allows me to add stability to my income while having flexibility in my own schedule during the week; plus, I’m working on a vineyard in Sonoma…it’s so ok.
Unraveling the mystery behind work, life, and having the energy for both.
Almost all my clients bring it up as part of their goals in our coaching engagement, "I want to be more present when I'm at home", "I want to have more energy for my family", "I don't want to be perfect at work and then a jerk at home."
If leadership is a skill that can be developed, which I believe is true, then how do you go about it?
Here are some traits that I believe are essential for good leaders, my hope is as you read through these, you picture a scenario you've had, did you exercise some of these traits? How and if not, how could you have? How did that impact their and your work, the relationship? Think of a time a leader showed you these traits and how that impacted you. Reflection of personal experiences will help you understand why each trait is so important.
Have you ever been in a situation when there are differing opinions amongst the team on a decision that must be made? Whether it’s about who takes what responsibility, how to handle a client, or a policy or operational decision, there are times when all of you will be unanimous and times when you differ. How do you know when to let democracy prevail or when to make an authoritative decision that goes against the majority? When should you stand alone?
I often encourage you to give constant feedback to your direct reports, to those you are developing. It's the best way for them to learn, to have a clearer understanding of your expectations and your personal style, and it always clears the air.
What happens when we are on the receiving end of feedback? It's especially tough when it's in the heat of the moment or things are very busy, we tend to react rather than listen.
Some of you know that each morning I have an established routine. Morning tea, breakfast for all (myself, our yellow lab Ruger, and his fancy cat sister Miss Lucy), meditation, and reading a passage from Derek Lin's The Tao of Joy Every Day.